As 2018 is drawing to a close, I have been reflecting on the past year (as most people do). I have made many newconnections and online friends. I am so grateful to be building and be part ofa community of supportive, encouraging and inspirational people. Freelancers,parents, business owners. The list goes on.
Through out the year, with all these new interactions, Facebook groups, emails and online community I have been askedmany questions about freelance writing and being a WAHM.
The following are the top 4 questions I have been asked this year. A few of them I have addressed over the year, but I wanted to compile them here anyway. I think they are important points,and the answers will help other new freelance writers and WAHM out there!
1. How do you balance freelance writing, your regular job and being a mum?
Hard work! Wine and chocolate!
But seriously, there are a few things that you need in order to balance it all.
Organisation. Batching. Delegation. And a great husband who supports me.
There is no one answer here, it is a matterof trying different organisational techniques and finding one that works for you and your family. And just as you think you have it down, your children will become ill, or drop naps or your day job will change your shifts (yes, that did happen), and you need to alter your schedule AGAIN. The trick is to go with the flow. Reprioritise as you go. And learn how to say NO. You must be realistic about how much work you agree to take on, both freelancing and at home.
You are only one person, with so many available hours in the day. You can only achieve so much in the one day. And as most of you know by now, my favourite mantra is:
“You can do anything, just not everything”– David Allen.
I live by it….or try to anyway!
2. What do you do when your significant other does not support you?
This is a hard question, but is actually one I have received a few times. I am lucky enough that my husband supports my writing dreams and aside from an eye roll every now and then when I become so engrossed in my computer I completely miss what he has said he is very positive and encouraging.
Having said that I know many people whosefamily are not so encouraging when it comes to their writing careers.
If this is you and you are struggling with what to do the one piece of advice I can give you is to simply be honest. Sit down with your partner and explain why you want to be a writer and how it IS A BUSINESS. If it helps, write out a business plan with protracted income from writing (and really the best part about freelance writing is there are little to no initial outlay costs). Approach it gently, try not to get your back up or snap back. Simply explain how much it means to you, show your business plan and how much you believe you can make from it. Be sure to explain that it can be a lot of hard work initially. Tell them how much you want and need their
If that doesn’t work, don’t give up. Work at your writing anyway.
Just don’t give your day job away until you are earning money from your writing. Squirrel it away somewhere, and then surprise your significant other with a holiday or night out with the money you earn. Or if they are still being a jerk than shout yourself! Leave them at home
3. “Do you think it is ok to have a drink whilst completing client work?”
It may sound like a mundane question, but really, it isn’t. And my answer may be controversial amongst other freelance writers, but here it is.
No. I do not think it is ok to have a drink when working on client projects.
Because I would not have a glass of wine whilst working a shift as a nurse (my other job).
Most people are fine after a glass of wine, not even tipsy. And some people find they may work better as they are more relaxed with some alcohol on board. However, I wouldn’t want my accountant,
My blog and social media on the other
Like I said, other freelance writers may disagree. But that is my own personal belief.
4. How do you dump a toxic client?
I believe it depends on how toxic they are. If they are rude, demanding and suck up all your time and energy (usually these types don’t pay you anywhere near what you are worth too)…a politely worded email is best. Simply say it isn’t working out
“Due to you overstepping boundaries, treating me awfully (helps to insert some examples), and demanding above and beyond our agreed upon scope I am terminating our working relationship.”
You need to be the bigger person.
Especially with our penchant to post everything to social media these days. You don’t want your fired client to put snapshots of anything you have written to them on their Facebook page. It will not only be out of context but if you have been rude it will reflect poorly on you instead of them. Don’t put yourself in the position where that could happen. Don’t let them win!